I don’t know about you, but the end of the year is often so busy with errands and parties and cookies and cocktails that I find it hard take the time I want for self-reflection. My 2017 was OK, and my 2018 can be even better — as long as I take the time to reflect, plan and set intentions for regret free living.
Picking up the thread of previous posts,…
I’m thinking about how I can give myself the best shot at knocking some of my Bucket List items out of the park in 2018. And I know that just making resolutions isn’t going to do the job. So here’s my plan, and at the end of this post, my gift to you for 2018.
Of course, I dream big and set resolutions. But, the problem with resolutions is that they’re too simple. There’s no guts to them. It’s so easy to say “I’ll lose weight in 2018” or “I’ll exercise in 2018” or “I’ll drink more water in 2018,” but if I don’t set specific intentions, and create accountability none of it will happen.
In this post I’m going to share the three step process I’m using to check off a few of my deep bucket list items in 2018. And I’d love to hear about yours. So please feel free to share in the comments section below, and don’t forget my gift.
Step 1: Dream Big
As I said in a previous post,…
- I imagine what regrets I might have in the future, and how I’d like to head them off at the pass.
- And I ask what would my ideal future look like?
- My ideal state of physical health
- My ideal state of emotional health
- My ideal living environment (and who greets me when I walk in the door?)
- My ideal spiritual life
- My ideal personal relationships
I find that meditation helps me get clear on both of these items.
Step 2: Set Specific Intentions
If I just set the resolution for my ideal state of physical health to “be healthy,” I know that will not be enough to accomplish the goal. Because, being “healthy” is vague. It can mean literally anything! So I ask myself, do I want to improve my cardiovascular health, do I want to lose weight, do I want to lower my bad cholesterol score before the next visit to my doc? Or all of the above? I have to figure out exactly what I want to improve and set intentions around that. For examples…
- For physical health: Take a 20-minute walk each day. Sign up for a class.
- For emotional health: In the shower, count my blessings. Sincerely thank two people each day.
- For living environment: Give warm hellos and goodbyes. Hug more, kiss more.
- For spiritual life: Read part of a spiritual classic every day. Do a gratitude meditation daily.
- For personal relationships: Make it a practice to listen and restate accurately what someone says before responding.
Step 3: Create Accountability
Again, in a previous post I outlined the reasons why I find accountability groups so important. To review:
- They give me a useful structure.
- I get new perspectives and ideas.
- I feel supported.
- It’s something fun and different.
- Whatever I do or don’t do, the group knows.
So there it is in a nutshell.
- Dream big
- Set specific intentions
- Create accountability
My New Year’s Gift to You.
I’m so passionate about this process, that I want to offer you the gift of a downloadable worksheet and a half hour complimentary phone conversation to help you get started. To make it as easy as possible for you to take me up on my offer, just email me at firstname.lastname@example.org, with a few times, and I’ll send you the worksheet.
Happy New Year!